I have some inside info about something your guidance teacher never told you, as a young women, when you were faced with choosing your career.
At some point in our teenage years the question comes up “What are you going to do after High School?” If you are one of the lucky people who had the finances or scholarship, you had to choose what you were going to study. Inevitably the guidance teacher would have looked at your grades, maybe given you an aptitude test, and had a short conversation with you.
If not the guidance teacher, you may have done a few online personality tests to try and figure out what you were going to do or study. A few rare people know exactly what they want to do for the rest of their lives before they have even needed to do any assessments.
But as an experienced adult with 2 children, I am going to share something with you that no guidance teacher ever told me.
Women: if you want kids, pick a career with flexibility
If you are a woman and you plan to have children someday, you need to pick a career that will allow you the flexibility to be with your children.
That’s it. No guidance teacher ever warned me about the emotions that come along when you have children. Children are exhausting.
You will have sleepless nights.
Your kids will go through separation anxiety.
Your kids will want to be held, and read to, and played with.
They will prefer you and your company to any other person in the world (for at least the first 3 years of their life).
And you, as their mother, will have your heart torn in two whenever you have to ignore their cries so that you can work and earn money.
If you want children, here are your options:
- Housewife: marry a man who earns enough to support you and your children.
- Teacher: you will get school holidays and you can usually take a few years off and fall right back into a job when your children go to school.
- Entrepreneur / business owner: when you run the show, you will have a flexible schedule
- Career and Childcare: Pick a career where you will earn enough to pay a nanny, Au-pair or daycare to look after your children.
- Career and Househusband: This option is not suggested, as many men feel emasculated as househusbands. You have to be very sure that your husband actually wants this as his “career”.
So that is it in a nutshell. Plain and simple.
But I don’t want children
I know a few women who have plainly said that they do not want children. If you are one of them, then the information above doesn’t apply to you. Go, be free and enjoy any career you wish.